Step 1: Get a job and begin saving money. 6 months unemployment...cruel joke? Irony? A lesson in the connection between independence and money. BINGO. It has to be a career, not a job and this no small feat. Interview last Thursday - hear back early next week. Interview on Monday, don't screw it up. There is a breakthrough just around that really painful corner. Go ahead, we'll wait...
Step 2: Make friends. How many friends do you have now? 0. You need to have someone you can call, someone you can talk to, someone who can get your mind off rotten things. Be a good friend, don't be negative all of the time. Be yourself, but don't be downer.
Step 3: Protect your son. When you tell dear hubby that you are out of there...make sure the kiddo is not there. Brace yourself. It's not clear what will happen, but it will probably make your stomach hurt. Be prepared for anything. Keep your phone near by and be ready to leave at that moment and not come back. That means, have the baby's things packed and your things too. Make sure they are already in your car. Don't forget important documents and your phone charger and the MONEY you've been saving.
Step 4: Get in touch with your lawyer. Tell him "all systems a-go". Don't let him talk you into staying. Don't let him abuse you in from of the kiddo. Hell, don't let him abuse you. Be quiet, but firm. Tell him to leave and wait for the lawyer to contact him.
Step 5: Get ready for a period of extreme discomfort. Keep repeating this - "I made the right choice." Never doubt how much more it hurt when you were with him. If you have to, remind yourself of every insult, every pain, every criticism until the thought of being with him hurts more than being without him.
Step 6: Confess to someone how bad it really was - tell grandma. She will likely say she already knew. If you never tell anyone how bad it really was, you'll keep holding resentment towards "everyone" and you'll always feel alone.
Step 7: DANCE AGAIN! Hire a babysitter. Sign up for a class. Remind yourself that you're not just obligated to be alive for your son, you enjoy being alive. .... .... .... you used to enjoy being alive.