Hello, Newsvine! I have been trying to think of what I wanted my first article to be since having major life changes. Here it is:
Have you heard about the Twi-Scandal involving Twilight movie star, Kristen Stewart? She was caught smooching the director of one of her films. Long story short - this makes her a cheater since she was dating another actor from the Twilight movie franchise! The article is not about Kristen Stewart. It's about the phrase "Once a cheater, always a cheater."
A lot of people use this phrase. Cheating, for whatever reason, is one of the most "unforgivable" offenses in relationship-dom. I find this somewhat odd because it suggests a radical egotism in the "righteous" individual.
Nevertheless, it begs the question - can you not come back from your worst mistake? All of us make mistakes. And by extension of this truth, we all live with our own personal worst mistake. However, I would hate anyone to be defined by their worst mistake. And I think it is unfair to dub someone a lifelong offender without more proof.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Really? Do we really think that is true? If so, what is the proper response by the cheater? Should they be doomed to live alone, never trusted? Never loved?
Cheating goes to the core of our ego. And the harsh reaction we have to cheaters is really a reflection of our own intense insecurity. I find that people who use the phrase "Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater" have been cheated on before. They are also very aggressive in their condemnation of cheaters.
Whore. Home wrecker. Sleaze. Trash.
I have noted that the vitriol towards cheaters is on par with that of murderers. I think only child abusers get worse treatment.
So, what do Newsviners think about cheaters? Is their hope? Is their justification? Is their redemption?